Sep 10 2026 | 00:31:52
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Co-Regulation in Polyamory: Finding Your Own Ground Before You Find Each Other
Sep 10 2026 • 00:31:52
Co-regulation is one of the ways human nervous systems find safety with each other. But what happens when one partner becomes your only reliable way b...
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Why You Can't Force Compersion (The Nervous System Science of ENM)
Aug 20 2026 • 00:31:02
Compersion has turned into a merit badge. Feel it, prove it, post about it, and if you don't feel it yet, apparently something's wrong with you. Here'...
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Attachment Styles in Polyamory: Your Body Remembered
Jul 23 2026 • 00:18:02
Knowing your attachment style doesn't fix anything. You can take the quiz, read every book, and announce yourself as "anxiously attached" at dinner, a...
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Jealousy Is Information (Your Nervous System Has Been Trying to Tell You Something)
Jul 09 2026 • 00:34:39
You said you were fine with it. You thought you were fine with it. And then your partner went on a date and you spent the whole night on the couch una...
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Opening Up Without Blowing it Up
Jun 25 2026 • 00:43:04
You said yes to opening your relationship. And then something happened in your body that you didn't expect. That's not your nervous system telling you...
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Stop Making Rules, Start Making Agreements
May 28 2026 • 00:28:32
Rules and agreements sound like the same thing in ENM. They are not. In this episode, Dr. Misty breaks down one of the most common and underexamined d...
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You Didn't Choose This: Compulsory Monogamy as Conditioning
May 11 2026 • 00:25:10
Most of us never actually chose monogamy. We inherited it. And the guilt, shame, and hypervigilance that show up when we question it aren't signs that...
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Privacy vs Withholding in Non-Monogamy, The Difference That Stops Fights
Jan 29 2026 • 00:24:20
In non-monogamous relationships, many conflicts are not about jealousy or trust, they are about information. What needs to be shared, what should rema...
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Polyamory Does NOT Excuse Poor Behavior
Jan 07 2026 • 00:24:38
Here's a radical idea: being polyamorous doesn't make you a better person. In this episode of Untamed Ember, Dr. Misty calls out the weaponized poly d...
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Power Exchange vs. Power Over: Ethical Dominance Without Coercion
Dec 24 2025 • 00:22:16
Join my newsletter at untamedember.kit.com for more deep dives. Power exchange is sexy when it’s chosen. Power over is toxic when it’s stolen. In this...