May 28 2026 | 00:28:32
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Stop Making Rules, Start Making Agreements
May 28 2026 • 00:28:32
Rules and agreements sound like the same thing in ENM. They are not. In this episode, Dr. Misty breaks down one of the most common and underexamined d...
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You Didn't Choose This: Compulsory Monogamy as Conditioning
May 11 2026 • 00:25:10
Most of us never actually chose monogamy. We inherited it. And the guilt, shame, and hypervigilance that show up when we question it aren't signs that...
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Privacy vs Withholding in Non-Monogamy, The Difference That Stops Fights
Jan 29 2026 • 00:24:20
In non-monogamous relationships, many conflicts are not about jealousy or trust, they are about information. What needs to be shared, what should rema...
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Polyamory Does NOT Excuse Poor Behavior
Jan 07 2026 • 00:24:38
Here's a radical idea: being polyamorous doesn't make you a better person. In this episode of Untamed Ember, Dr. Misty calls out the weaponized poly d...
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Power Exchange vs. Power Over: Ethical Dominance Without Coercion
Dec 24 2025 • 00:22:16
Join my newsletter at untamedember.kit.com for more deep dives. Power exchange is sexy when it’s chosen. Power over is toxic when it’s stolen. In this...
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Top Drop, Sub Drop, and the Neurochemistry of “After”
Dec 10 2025 • 00:22:54
If you like this episode, check out my mini-course on Drop at https://untamedember.com Join my newsletter at untamedember.kit.com for weekly deep dive...
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Switching Roles, Staying Safe: Consent for Switches
Nov 26 2025 • 00:23:38
Join my newsletter at untamedember.kit.com for deep dives. Switches get a bad rap as “indecisive” — but the truth is, switching between roles is a ski...
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CNC Without Confusion: Ethics, Capacity, and Clear Off-Ramps
Nov 05 2025 • 00:23:33
Join my newsletter at untamedember.kit.com for deep dives. Consensual non-consent (CNC) is one of the edgiest and most misunderstood areas of kink. Do...
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Enthusiastic Consent When Words Are Hard
Oct 08 2025 • 00:32:45
Join my newsletter at untamedember.kit.com for weekly deep dives. “Enthusiastic consent” sounds great — but what if your body doesn’t do loud, verbal ...
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SSC, RACK, and PRICK/SSICK: Consent Frameworks for Nervous-System Safety
Sep 11 2025 • 00:32:44
Join my newsletter at untamedember.kit.com for weekly deep dives. Safe, Sane, and Consensual. Risk-Aware Consensual Kink. Personal Responsibility in C...